Dia, when I considered H's love language I considered both the way he acted during the best times towards me and others and then thought of his criticism of me. I realised Acts of Service was his. He also said, "I can never make you happy" or something along those lines. I recognised that he needed words of affirmation. I guess I'm a lot more strategic now and I do text or email when I recognise his efforts and I am happy with him. I ask him to help me occasionally so he can feel good by doing Acts of service for me. I loved that book and feel it, along with DR have made a huge difference for my sitch.
