My key phrases: "I understand why you might think that way"
" I understand why you would feel that way"
"I can see why you would think that way of that"
"This is your choice, not mine"
Anything using the phrase "This is your choice"
Just validate her feelings, even if you don't agree. Or just remove yourself from the situation till she cools off. Tell her you are willing to work with her, but she needs to work with you at the same time.
You have to realize that in her state of mind right now, her way is the only one that makes sense. In her mind, you are %100 responsible for everything wrong and the only way to fix this is to get out.
