Trying to stay positive w/o getting too hopeful

[Dawn of Hope]

Almost,
It appears that you are not very far along in this process (although I'm sure it feels like forever). You need to be prepared for him to "move the goalposts." This is very common in MLC. You hear, "I want you to change X, Y, and Z." You bust a gut to do those things, and then you get one or more of the following responses:
-- "Too little, too late."
-- "I'm glad you made those changes, but I have no faith that they will stick."
-- "X, Y, and Z were just the basics--nowhere near enough to make me happy with you. Now I want you to change A, B, and C too." (Cycle, rinse, repeat...ad infinitum.)

I got all three of those myself. My favorite was when H said to me, "How can I be sure you're not going to become suicidal again?" I wanted to hit him and yell, "How can I be sure you're not going to cheat on me again? And did you ever consider that there might be some relationship between the two things? Of course you did; you keep doing horrible stuff, like bringing OW to sleep with you in OUR HOUSE, and then asking if I'm going to kill myself!" But in proper DB form, I said something mild and non-confrontational instead. I am waiting to receive my Oscar!

I really do hope for the best for you, but be prepared for an excruciatingly long process. I hope this post will help you prepare rather than just upset you.

Peace,
Dawn