Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[Bravehardt]

Coach

Thanks for the replies! And everyone else out there.

What is the show -stopper for her coming during the summer to see the kids?

She won't agree to anything I propose, it's her way or she becomes very agitated. The kids are back in school in two weeks, she has had the girls spend the night once at her place and she has stayed once or twice at our. The W took D14 and S17 to Sub Way last week. She has not attempted to be part of their live unless she has nothing better going on. Fourth of july the kids call her and she doesn't respond till Sunday all in a huff to see them. Her cell records show shes out of town in same city as OM address, texting and making calls all day on the 4th. But none to kids. She has this secret shifting work schedule. I have offered many different ways for her to see the kids.

What can't be worked around right now except you at work?

Right now I have to set up child care for D 6, I need set this up on Sundays with my network of family and friends. The wife had been writing down the days she could be there for them on a calander at our home several weeks back and quit doing it.

Ask her if you can bring the kids by her place whenever you have some free time.

I have not tried this approach yet. We just found out where she lives like 3 weeks ago. She has gone under ground, and when she surfaces for air she locks her sight on D 6 with a vengance.



So I went home around 3:40 this afternoon with D 6. D 14 was at home as well as W. D 6 is elated to see her mom, W says high I reply in kind way. D 6 disappears and W and I are alone. The W says I notice a missed call from you whats was up. I told her that I don't understand why we are on different pages all the time when we communicate. Sheagrees it seems that way. I said that I was trying to make sure D 6 was her when she arrived today, that is why I said 4 would be better. She replied that wasn't a concern she just wanted to come over. I said your text referes to D 6. she disagreed I let it go. I let her know that I wasn't keeping D 6 purposely bbusy like she had stated on Sunday. She replied well it seems that way, I have offered to see her many times over the last week.

I said it did not work out in our schedule with such short notice. Then I used the Coachs words "How can I help you see the kids more often?" The silence was lasted till D 6 returned 4 minutes later. She never answered the question.So I got up and left.

Then D 6 says to W and I that she wants to go swimming and spend time with both of us in the pool. I went outside to clear thoughts for a few minutes. The W and D 6 are in the kitchen when I return and W says do you have a Lowes or Home Depot card still. I say why, she says to me that she needs to buy a fan,,,,,,,,WTF(in my head only guys I know better) I just kissed D 6 and left for 2 hours.

When I returned I showered, threw on some new threads and said good buy to everyone, W says are you going somewhere, why yes I'am. She says remeber I leave for work at 1am. Ok see ya. So here I am sending this out to you guys and doing some GALing and a couple of cold one.