First, I hope you did not initiate the R talk. You seem to understand DB'ing, so I doubt you did. I would try to avoid those discussions at this point.
Second, a lot of things get debated here, but everyone pretty much agrees DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
Third, you said your W was pushing you for a decision at the end of the 90 day S period. This is HER show, HER decision. Which means SHE is the one who will have a decision to make. Not you. If it comes up again, just tell her you understand her position, you don't agree with it (D), but that you cannot stop her from that decision.
It sounds like a little reality might help wake her up.
