WAW wants to get togeather?

[bluerain]

No, you arent trying to be her friend. Well, you can be, but friends dont treat you this way. You are trying to be her husband. The strong man who doesnt let his wife blame him when her self-arranged dream life doesnt work out. Lovingly detach. Thats the best advice, and the hardest to figure out.

Good job validating, see how well it worked? Im sure that she said it to try to hit a nerve, but you disarmed her by not responding in that way.

Shes having a crisis of some sort, I wonder why she wouldnt want to live in the town you are in. I think that WAS have a really hard time with their pride, and with their shame. I think that the best thing you could do is reassure her that she can see the kids whenever she wants to (within reason) when she starts to go off about that again, but only say it once.