...struggling against his XW on this cost his son the scouting activity. Not a fight worth picking.
I struggled with myself on this. Fortunately, I had the discretion to not breath a word about the event to S8, but instead had asked xW if I could take our S to the event and thus be able to tell him about it. I was prepared for her to say no, in which case S8 would never hear of the event from me and thus be disappointed.
At the same time, I will not casually absolve xW for one iota of her role in this dispute. She wouldn't leave it alone. She blew it up into a major issue so as to put me on the defensive. But truth is, whichever way I turn xW is going to always see the worst in it.
Sadly, the reality of this is that this won't be the last time our S's will suffer the consequences of this continual dispute between their parents. I am doing my best to ensure any negative impact to my S's, especially in these all-to-often lose-lose decisions, is kept as minimal as possible.
