Hey, I understand -- you are definitely making the better choice for your kid. I think his XW should have let him take his son to the scout thing too. But, she didn't, she isn't willing to allow that flexibility -- which is, very simply, her choice. Her time, her choice, period. Trying to understand it or fight it is a waste of time and energy, not good for anyone in the long run. Once the D goes through, the kid's R with the X is not the other parent's job to manage or direct or interfere with. It is nice to have some give and take in the co-parenting R, but the space for that usually comes long after the D and custody battles have been settled, not in the middle of the mess, unfortunately. NCB made a reasonable request, he was turned down -- struggling against his XW on this cost his son the scouting activity. Not a fight worth picking.
-And, I don't think it is easy at all. It is gut-wrenching, tragic, unbearably sad, infuriating (a stronger appropriate term escapes me), hurtful, horrid, and horrifying.
