I'm wondering if anyone had any suggestions on how to get out of the "friend zone" when the time is right. How do we know? Do we let the WAS come to us or do we initiate or just let them know the opportunity is there?
I think sometimes we as the LBS are so afraid of pressuring/pursuit that what should come naturally, becomes a point of uncertainty.
Just wondering.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I brought this up on my current thread earlier this week. Sandi had some good responses (as always). Basically, our job is just to be patient. Our WAW's know where we stand. THEY have to be the ones to want to work on the M, and, thus, out of friendship stage to something more.
It's hard as he!!, but we just have to keep doing what we are doing for as long as we can and see where it goes.
You want something more than friends and she can sense it. I belive that is what will keep her right where she is. This feeling of you wanting more is giving her what she needs/wants.
Reverse to rolls, how would you feel if every time you were around her you could sense she wanted you. I think it would feel pretty good to have someone want you like that. I dont think you would want to lose that feeling and that is exactly what you must take away.
I'm wondering if anyone had any suggestions on how to get out of the "friend zone" when the time is right. How do we know? Do we let the WAS come to us or do we initiate or just let them know the opportunity is there?
Make it a goal that she comes to you. How will you know you are more than friends? Then what do you have to do let get her to come to you. Make yourself irressitable. Don't have expectations and no pressure. What will make her feel loved, cherished and appreciated?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
In fact, my W has also said your changes are going to be good for the next person. It's the ideal of being "in love" which is the hardest hurdle to overcome.
Stuck,
Saw your posts on another thread and came over to check out your sitch! My W has said something similar. I wonder if she's just waiting to feel "in love" again. That could take a while, I don't think that just comes back. But the ideal is always there, in movies, everywhere!
Yep I think our W's are looking for that "in love" feeling. The only problem is that they spent so much time detaching to get out of that "in love" feeling with us, that they don't realize they have to WORK on getting that feeling back.
It's their choice to leave, yet when they think they want it to work, they expect it just to happen.
That's the ironic thing. If you read alot of the posts, the WAS does her hardest to mentally and emotionally break the LBS to make them seem like the bad guy. Then they turn around and say "I just don't have feelings for you". Well no sh*t. If you convinced yourself your S was a spawn of the devil, no wonder why there are no "feelings". Sheesh.
Lately I've been reading alot about attraction and what makes a guy attractive to women to see if that'll help a bit.
We'll see.
How is your sitch?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
