Sorry you are having a rough time. It's understandable.
I have not read you entire sitch, but are you seeing an IC? That has helped me a great deal.
I admit the position your H is taking is perplexing, and I have a hard time understanding it. But, it is what it is. The question is, what do you want?
I think your resentment is normal. You resent b/c you still care. I know I would. But, you cannot let that control you. Especially in your work life. My C told me after my W dropped the bomb that I should get back to work b/c it was one of the areas of my life over which I had control. I now know what he meant. I also know how hard it is to concentrate at work. But, you have to deal with it. I usually just give myself a break from the whole mess while I'm at work, almost as if I become this other person who is not involved in the issues I have.
