Here's the thing, I have been on this board for two years and I have managed not to ever offend (at least not that I know of) anyone and I dont want to start now.
But, I also have always tried to be honest. My circle on here is small. Once I let someone in, I am there for the long haul.
I say all this because I want to be sure you knew where my post was coming from.
In your words, "Today I got an email from H that pretty much was a "blueprint" (as my fellow DBer called it) as to what I need to do from H's perspective to save the marriage. He was clear what he needs from me."
I know that you are a smart lady. And I wanted to be sure that the things HE needs you to do are things that YOU feel needed to be changed. Yes, they do watch to see if the changes are real. And they can tell if they are being done as a means to an end.
He doesnt get to tell you what you should be doing. You tell you, ya know?
So, sorry if I wasnt clear. Sorry if what I said upset you. I care about you. This steps we take on this journey are a way of life. Sometimes, a marriage is also saved.
