ooops, sorry about the truncated post above, I got distracted and hit the submit button by mistake.
What I had intended to say was some people (I remember Sandycay (prayers and hugs to her) as one and you, Karen, also)saying to stop the family time. Up until this point, I had been reluctant to do so because I knew that with no contact, there was no chance of he and I fixing things - we were so emotionally distant. 12 months later, and we're more distant than before - is that ridiculous or what? Now that I see that didn't work, I realize I have to do something else. Spending time together as a family hasn't seemed to renew his feelings for me. So perhaps they are just dead dead. If OW is in the picture (I can't prove this), then I know there is nothing I can do.
We are stopping the family time, but we still occasionally have contact due to son being involved in sports. We both want to go and be there for our son. Wondering how others may handle this. In the past, when we were in our "non-speaking mode" he and I would go to our son's sports events and sit apart from eachother. That was awkward and ridiculous. We do sit together now.
I feel so horrible for my son. He's 8 and cannot figure out why mommy and daddy can't be together because we get along so well, still "love" eachother, and never fight.
I really need to focus on me and him. This I know.
