New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

Great to hear from you! I appreciate your wisdom. You are definitely right about "giving up control". That's one of the keys to truly becoming whole again with or without the spouse. When I think back at my own situation, I can't believe how much control I try to exert over my W. I can't believe that's the person I used to be...I emphasize "used to be".

After a year of separation, I look at my present picture and I must say I have really changed emotionally, mentally, and spiritually for the better. Now I KNOW. But it took a lot of introspection, humility, and a genuine desire to change. It took my W to leave for me to change. I understand that. I am grateful to open my eyes and heart to a new outlook on life. I pray my W also opens her eyes and heart in her own way to believe that my changes are genuine and for the long haul

Thanks Carlos for being there.

JR