My X also thinks she is the only one who knows how to raise a child correctly, so she is in the right while I'm in the wrong at all times.
Complete BS!
As for the GF, I introduced D to GF unplanned, but GF needed a lot of help w/a garage sale she desperately needed to have on the same weekend I had my D, so we agreed to have them meet (4th of July weekend). It went very well and D really likes her and her kids a lot (and GF likes D too).
So, D reported to X how nice and pretty GF was, and it all started up again. Angry. Angry. Angry.
Finally, the dog situation isn't improving, so I really have no choice but to put him down to end his confusion and discomfort. Since he has no muscle tone in his sphyncter, the thought is it won't come back (wouldn't for humans either) and there very well could be more inside of him that is causing this all to happen. If I were to choose to keep him alive a bit longer, he'd only be uncomfortable and confused and again, something much more painful may be at work inside of him.
It is best at this point to let him go...even as hard as that is for me. I know in my heart it is the right thing to do.
So, I'll take him tomorrow to pick up D and let X say goodbye to him. I'll then let D have her day to say goodbye to him as well tomorrow. I'll most likely put him down some time between Friday and Sunday so we don't prolong it. The longer I wait the harder it will be on me.
So, that is very sad, but I'm moving toward closure w/the whole thing. I'm choosing to look at it as the apex of all the bad things that have been happening in my life over the past year and a half. This is the final straw, so I'm choosing to believe it is all up from here.
The dog isn't good and I'll have to put him down. That is sad as I'll miss him very much.
On a positive, the GF is going well. She is finalizing her custody and child support payment issue in court on Thursday, so she's been a nervous wreck. However, she's wanted me to be by her side as I seem to calm her.
I'm looking forward to seeing where we can take things once this stress is behind us (as well as the stress of my little pup). I think things will really begin to look up for us both very soon.
Rob, I am sorry to hear about your dog. Pets are such a big part of the family. Our ferret was sick last year and we spent more saving his life than it cost to buy him. After all the kids went through I wasn't about to let him die!!
Maybe after some time you can adopt another loyal friend. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Rob-- Just caught up...sorry about the pup. I lost my babe in the middle of the mess, too, and it was terrible. I was able to contact a mobile vet, though, and Ernie left the world from her own home; thought you might want to look into the option.
Hey everyone! Thanks for the support about my little guy. It is clear there are tons of animal lovers here who understand how difficult this is on me.
I think the hardest part is he's healthy otherwise and right now it is his "good days" that become so confusing to me. He has those good days and I think, maybe he's pulling out of it, then he goes back to normal. The roller coaster of emotions is very, very difficult.
So, today I'll take him when I pick up my D so X can say goodbye to him and then D will have her chance to do the same today when she stays over w/me.
I'm going to need to do this quickly as knowing it needs to be done and then waiting to do it is simply killing me.
Donna, thanks for the mobile vet option. I'll be looking into that one for sure.
Rob, ((()))) just to say I always have the vet come to me for my animals final journey. It saves them the stress of a car trip.
I feel for you so much, my old fella is on borrowed time and yet in himself he fine, just legs that are going.When he has a bad day I think I have to do the "deed" but then he picks up and so it goes. I look upon it when the time comes as our final act of love to them. It is so hard but look at all the love and happiness we had/have from them being in our lives. Take care.
I can see how much harder it is for you when your dogs still have some good days. For me, I had taken my dog for a walk and shortly after I found her in extreme agony flopping on the floor without the use of her hind legs - she was a 15 year old German Shepard/Siberean Husky mix. It was obvious what needed to be done but it was late at night on a weekend and I had no stomach to do like in "Ole Yeller". I frantically was able to find a vet clinic that was opened 24 hours. I drove my dog there (in agony all the way) they gave me the reassurances that what I was doing was the only logical thing. I decided against being in the room when they euthanized her.
I may have no choice but to take him to the vet b/c my vet will allow me to run a tab w/them and money is a bit tight now. I'm really hoping to be able to do this sooner rather than later.
Just knowing it needs to be done is killing me. I did speak w/the vet again today and she talked w/a surgeon who couldn't figure out what is wrong and didn't have answers either.
So, there is the call to the neurologist tomorrow, but it is basically a 99.9% chance that he can't be cured. I'm resigned that there is no 11th hour miracle at hand, so I'm waiting to hear what the neurologist said so I can move forward with everything.
It is sad, but necessary. I look at this as the apex of all the garbage I've dealt w/over the past 18 months. I'm not sure what can happen to make it much worse.
