Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

As for lvg house, is this a safety issue? If yes, then get out now. If not, just play it cool. He's the one who should be worried.

Hope you are seeing his pattern of "I was gonna do x but not now". He's trying to control

And he's flipping out to know how you know @ A - if nothing to hide, why be defensive. You know better.

Thanks GIMA. No, there is not a safety issue. No worries on that end, I'd call 911 if it ever went there.

I know about the pattern - I was even thinking it in my head as he was saying it. 100% control. No doubt.

I forgot to mention he said something to the effect of "why would I want to stay with someone who is going to spy on me?"

I can't recall what I said next but I didn't really acknowledge it, not letting the focus be on me. At one point, however, I did say if we ever did decide to work on our relationship, there would have to be a lot of changes.

H just came to the door and asked how many pieces of fish I want for dinner. I feel like my life could be a movie entitled "Monster vs. Alien".