Hi DQ - I am not convinced that SPs missus is passive aggressive. She told SP she was leaving, gave him a date, bought a house. It seems she is not game playing at all. she has told SP what she is doing and has gone and done it.
I think that should it come to light ( and I doubt it ) that there was is no other man , then she has been up front and honest. As a WAS - very very rare. Smart
She wants to get stuff sorted and now, so she can get on. She is obviously a person who drives for what she wants.
I absolutely agree with you on SP being passive aggressive. He is with even us on these posts. I dont think SP likes to lose or not have control over the situation. My word he has no control with MRS SP. I believe that SP hides behind his bravado or mojo. He aint let go, he has not even loosened his grip.
When you have detached , nothing else matters but your own well being. To drag out answers to questions or requests that relate to stuff, is only hanging on. To me this drags out the ugly feelings and puts you further back in Dbing efforts.
If WAS is unreconcilitery then work on yourself. ANYTHING that cant be taken with you in the after life is just stuff.
SP how did you support yourself before your wife ? I understand that you must consider the children's needs but what is with this spousal support and forever !
If i remember right, it was you that wanted children. From what we know about your wife ( and only from you ) she does not come across as someone who would not shrugg off her responsibility, at least financially.
To respond also to the person who questioned my statement on affairs, abuse etc.
Most WAS need a crutch to use to get away. Not in a milly second am I saying it is right. WAS need to have an excuse that makes them seem that they are doing the right thing for all concerned. It helps rationalise the craziness.
Sorry SP if i seem harsh but living in a country that offers spousal support in only limited situations, I feel that it may just be another excuse for lawyers to duke out. I by no means speak of child support. The children should be provided for financially so that they maintain their standard of living.
