Wise words from the guys... Can you make time to do something for yourself tonight? I'm finding that when I really need to redirect my focus back to me instead of H it helps to do something really "selfish". Go shopping, or get some takeout from a restaurant that I really like, or pick up a special dessert (thank goodness for Cheesecake Factory right by my work!) that I can sit and enjoy after I put my daughter to bed.

Please don't drive yourself crazy for the next week worrying about his motives.

I can't recall if you're in individual counseling as well as MC? I'm doing it, and it's helping me deal with the "fallout" of the situation.

Me - 30, H - 32
T - 10, M - 6, D - 1
DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2
on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10)
Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011