I know this is just my doubt and insecurity speaking (well, screaming actually)...

I am afraid she will interpret my detachment as proof that I am "getting over it" and "moving on"; that she will think I am no longer interested in reconciliation, so she won't try even if (miracle of miracles) the A blows up and/or she changes her mind and wants to....?

Ack. Phooey. :-P

Me: 50; Wife: 48
Gay; civil union in NJ
no kids
M: 15 years, together 17
Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY
W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed