It seems that he is drowning in guilt, depression, work. I think it is important that you don't stop doing the "on purpose" connecting. Though it is not how you want it, you both need it. I know you don't want to save him per se but you can be his guiding light. Keep finding joy in your life and making it how you want it.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well done for trying with H.. snuggling up, reaching out etc. I dont get the lack of intimacy either.. I know you already asked him before and he just says its not that important to him (BS, its been 8/9 months ????).. but what if you asked him again and if he shrugs it off say, I dont believe you, is there something else going on, or are you unable to talk to me about it?? It just doesnt add up.
It must be hard to consider your childrens feelings, I have no advice on that score, but sending you a big hello... Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm a bit stunned too that there seems to be no feeling in his Willy Wonka.
If I had a Bond girl in my lap, we'd definitely talk about the first thing that came up...and something would be coming up very quickly, I might add.
RTL
Very nice. I like this one... Hope you are well today, K. I was talking to my sister about you over the weekend and she thinks I should fly to Greece for a visit...
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hi Cookie!!! CBK sent me your hug. We didnt manage to meet and I leave Athens tomorrow for 4 days and he will be gone by the time I get back... Next time!!
So, I am packing and getting ready. The ride to the port tomorrow at 6, with 4 small kids will be fun. Once we get on, I will be fine. My only problem is my back will kill me with this bag I will be carrying... Anyway, cant wait to get away.
As far as H is concerned, I have this little voice telling me this weekend will make progress, which way, still a mystery. I just know things will be discussed and I will come back with a clearer head. It is about time, I think... It's my dad's Bday tomorrow also and his apt with the oncologist to talk about next steps. Of course he wont tell him exactly what is going on but he will talk to us on the phone about the sitch. Please, keep your fingers crossed for my daddy. K
Hi Cookie!!! CBK sent me your hug. We didnt manage to meet and I leave Athens tomorrow for 4 days and he will be gone by the time I get back... Next time!!
Maybe next time I'll be with CBK too! Regardless, one time I will meet you in Greece.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Next time!!
Once we get on, I will be fine. My only problem is my back will kill me with this bag I will be carrying... Anyway, cant wait to get away.