NC with wife for one week

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Alright well I did have contact with W today. I went home for lunch and she had been there to take some things. I sent her a text "I thought that you were going to call before you stopped". She called back 5 minutes later and left a vm. She made some excuse that she did not have time to call as she switched work schedules and she was busy. Then she went on to say that she still pays on the mortgage and it is her house as well. I called back 45 minutes later and left her a vm saying that I did not care if she stopped over but that we agreed she would call before she came over.

A couple of minutes lates she calls back so I answer.

W: I need you to bring me a friends sleeping bag to my work

M: I have already given that to him

M: I don't care that you stop by the house as you also pay the mortgage but we agreed that you would let me know if you were stopping by

W: Why does it matter you weren't there anyhow and it is still my house.

M: It matters because we agreed on you letting me know when you were going to stop by.

W: Ok but I really don't see what this difference is if you don't care if I stop by.

M: Because it was what was agreed upon. So that is all. So have a good time at the concert and I will talk to you later.

W: Wait can't you talk to me.

M: Sure what do you need.

W: I have talked to a L this week to talk about D.

M: OK so now what?

W: Well you wanted me to let you know if I talked to a L.

M: Ok so what is going on did you file papers or what.

W: No I just talked to him about what the options are with the house and everything. And how this would get done. What do you want to do with the house?

M: I don't know what are you thinking.

W: Well I think that we should sell it and then keep paying on the loan.

M: It does not work that way once you sell the house you have to pay off the loan as they don't have collateral anymore.

W: So what do you want to do?

M: Well we can sell it but would have to sell our retirement accounts off to payoff the rest of the loan since the market is down. Or I could continue living there and you would pay a portion of the mortgage.

W: Well I don't care

M: Did you file papers or what is going on?

W: No I haven't yet. What do you want to do get your own L or what.

M: Yeah I will be getting my own L and you know what I want to do and that is not get a D.

W: Well what do you want to do stay Separated forever. Cuz I am not moving back into that house.

M: No I think that we should be separated for a while and see how things are once things cool down some. But I can't stop you from getting a D and if that is what you want to do then go ahead.

W: How long is a little while?

M: I was thinking a couple of months.

W: I was thinking I would file in a month after your brothers wedding.

M: I can't stop you if that is what you want to do.

W: Well it just makes no sense to me why not as I am not moving back to that house.

M: Alright well I am going to be gone for 11 days at my brothers wedding are you going to be able to watch the dogs.

W: No I will be out of town going to another concert that weekend with (Enabling Friend).

M: Well I guess that I can just kennel them for 11 days then.

W: Yeah just do that.

M: Ok well I will talk to you later then.

Well that is pretty much the entire conversation that I had with W. This is the first time that we have spoken in two weeks. I remained calm the entire time and did not get angry or beg her to change her mind. So I really don't know where to go from here. I just can't believe that she would call a L this quick and get things going. I know look at the bright side she has not filed yet. Only a matter of time though. She is still very angry and has a lot of hostility built up. Gucci, Robx, Sandi2, Puppy could use some insight here. Thanks


And yes ADB I am willing to put in the effort to make this work.