A new one here....

[Arwen_in_NJ]

So... we haven't had much contact since the OW came back into town on Friday. Passed each other at the house when she came home to get more clothes or do her laundry.... Conversation was sparse, but civil. I mentioned I was worried about the cat, as she wasn't eating. She got the recycling out (!) on Monday and took the garbage out of the house yesterday...

I got this e-mail from her today, referencing a conspiracy nut that we used to talk to on the train when we/she commuted to the City every day. Light, casual contact- not sure why she is reaching out, if there is any meaning at all.

-----Original Message-----

Subject: You'll find this funny

Took train to NYC and guess who I saw? Yep, A***** -- ever the same. Now
on UFOs and oh yeah, there was no holocaust. Hah!

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Not sure if/when/how to respond to this..... Do I ignore? Do I respond in kind? My horoscope says: "You are navigating through some tricky spaces now, so be careful; everything could change in a moment." :-P

I also got an e-mail yesterday, asking if a $250 deposit to our checking was a deposit from my payroll... I told her a week ago I was going to be contributing $500/month to the account, as she wanted to reduce her contribution by that much. She has been supporting me/the house for the last few years, and this is part of my 180. I have not responded to that e-mail yet- not sure if I should. I usually used to answer e-mails in minutes (I get them on my phone). Not getting back to her right away is part of my 180 as well. She used to hate how much time I spent on the computer.

Oh yeah- she also closed out a credit card and reduced a overdraft line of credit on our joint checking from $10,000 to $1,000. She got "advice" to close out joint equity lines- like I wouldn't have cleaned out the accounts already if I was inclined to see so. She e-mailed me about the overdraft line, but hasn't told me yet about the credit card.

Been feeling all day like my heart is beating way too fast. I do need to cut down on the caffeine... :-(

Not sure what she is looking for... Acknowledgment that she did some things at the house? That we can still be friends while she is messing around with someone else a half mile from where we live? That I am "still where she left me" (MLC modus operandi)?

Advice?