Your kids sound like my kids as far as handling things. It's amazing isn't it. Guess that's what they mean when they say kids are resilient.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.