Thanks, Kett. My D20 is pregnant. She just told me and her mom last nite, after knowing for two weeks and being terrified to tell us, the poor thing.
She was at her sister's house, afraid to face us. She most likely has no health insurance, since her poor grades led to academic probation whereby she couldn't continue to carry a full classload, and "full-time student" is a requirement of my insurance company. She's not married to the father, he has no job (other than buying and selling things on eBay), and he lives with his mother. He has two other children from two different women.
As we hurriedly got dressed to drive the 20 minutes to D22's townhome, I said to my wife "How is she going to pay for this? etc, etc., and "What are we going to do?"
"Right now," she said, "We're going to go be with our daughter, we're going to hug her, and tell her that we love her, and that it will be okay. Everything else can be figured out later."
Gotta love the fetching Mrs. Choc./Puppy.
And that's exactly what we did.
More later,
Puppy
Grandpa Puppy
Congratulations...even if its difficult circumstances...GOD makes babies. Adding my prayers. t/sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I am so glad that both of you were there to support your daughter. I know this isn't what anyone expected but miracles come from the least expected places. Love to you and yours and Congratulations.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Puppy, I have an "unexpected" grand-daughter, and although it was a little bit rough, NOW I have this AMAZING baby who fills up the entire world with light! She "wubs" me so much, and although I am only 42 years old, I am "grandma". Where at first, you cringe at the thought of anyone calling you this, once it is truly a little bit of heaven saying it to you, you actually delight in it! My friends all tease me - "ha ha, GRANDMA!" - like I should duck my face in shame. But they have no clue what an honored position this actually is in the life of a little angelic human being who thinks you are the sun and moon.
You will go through rough times but in the end, will be a happier person!
Hi Sweetie, tried to catch up with you and decided to just come to your place. I kind of know a little bit what you are going through. My D got pregnant before she graduated, but soon miscarried. First, the shock, then disappointment, then utter fear of "what are we going to do?"......then anger. I'm sorry to say that I did not handle it well and my D saw my anger. I'm glad Mrs. Puppy is a better mom than I was. I was angry b/c of other circumstances involved with my D that put her health at great risk by being pregnant and I thought she was going to die. (Lots of problems back then.)
Anyway, I wanted to tell you that there are a lot of programs to help single mothers......if they haven't been all cut. And, if she is (or later) enrolled in any kind of education system, then there is much "more" offered to assist with daycare and a lot of various helps. You have my prayers. She's blessed to have a Puppy Dog for a daddy!
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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
