"I'm not sure where it would go, OT, but plan on it."
Good, I'm really interested in what they have to say. I see both positives and negatives.
On the one hand, it is great that you are offering DS support and showing your forgiveness. On the other hand, you put some pretty heavy stuff on DS on his birthday, perhaps made him feel as if HE should struggle more with forgiveness because there are SO MANY things EVERY day that you have to forgive. Also, I fear you may have showed that you were pleased when DS said XH "never asked him that." I dunno how to better explain it. All I can tell you is that if I were your son, after that convo I would have felt that I "should" have big problems with Dad for his past actions and that I "should" feel neglected by him, otherwise I'd be letting you down. THEN AGAIN, certainly offering support is a great thing, and it does no good to deny that DS might be struggling with forgiveness himself, so being open about it might have been just what he needed. So, again, I really see pros/cons to the interaction and would be very interested in what C and kid's C have to say.
BTW, what did C say about XH's attack post-kid's-C session?
