I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[beepee]

Hi Wifey:

Thanks for that. I definitely understand.
I always felt like i was an obligation to my H and I would say that to him and he just wouldnt take it well, because he wanted me to get better and saying things like that proved to him that i wasnt getter any better and i agree.

I think one of the main reasons he doesnt want to see me is because he feels guilty about how he left and also doesnt want to see me cry when i see him because then he'll feel pressured again like he did in the relationship, to console me and tell me that everything would be ok. i dont think he wants to be in that position anymore. so i think he's taking the time to become stronger than he was in the relationship so that he wouldnt feel that way when he meets me, and he wants me to do the same, to be stronger and he knows that if he sees me, i wont be strong enough yet to be able to handle it.

so this separation is great for both of us. its hard for me to accept it and agree with it but deep down, i know that its the best thing for us. myself especially since I need to work on so much more than he does and its going to take a long time but i'll get there.