Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[The Wifey]

My W only has duty to herself and appears to think about the kids only if something better isn't going on.

Your POV - What is hers?

Also, I believe I read in someone's post, that you think the LBS should bust up EA/PA if they can. My W has claimed several times she is not under the influence of anyone (man, woman or friend) and denies any involment in a EM/PA. I feel otherwise due her lack of willingness to communicate with me and the slight contact she has with our children.

Your feeling - what is hers?

Her cell bill shows streaks of activity with calls and text to OM. They can be daily or upto a week or more apart, lately (I only know this after Coach asked me about cell bill last week, I looked on Friday for the first time since May). Also it appears that call are originating from the city where OM lives every other weekend.

She In the past, the way she responded to me when I asked her about an A with someone else to her face says otherwise. She won't look me in the eyes, sideways body position, deflecting it back to me, the usual BS. How does this work and is it worth it to attempt to do? Are the results favorable?

Maybe she thinks about it when you bring it up. She may believe OM is only a supportive friend right now. She may wonder about the possible future, but only when you bring it up.

I do have some intel on suspected OM.

And what of it? You mentioned it before. Is he the Dark Knight waiting to swoop in? Is he your target now?

I am not attacking you, my dear. An OP is only a symptom of problems in the m, not the cause, in most cases.