Must've Been That Mojo Boogie

[The Wifey]

If I might come in a day late on this....

The LBS is understandably hurt and upset and more than feels things are already decided and they are way behind. Granted.

Yet, SP, you can't yet understand what Mrs SP is saying or WHY she is saying it.

She did not just wake up one morning and say, "I think I have to get out of this marriage."

I am also not saying he doesn't have perfectly valid reasons for being passive agressive. It is many times a tactic that LBS's need to use. All I am saying is that him doing this is pissing her off and THAT IS WHY she is choosing to whine to her sister about him saying x when he clearly said not-x, as SP put it. I am only responding to the portion that I hi-lited in my other post.

No one is right, no one is wrong. It is all a game and LBS's are playing (usually) to hopefully win back the WAW (not that SP is still doing this but usually that is what LBS's are doing). WAS's are playing the game to exit as simply as possible with as much as they can get away with (ie: they want to just take all the assets, leave all the bullcrap, and blame it all on LBS).

Again - what I was responding to is SP's saying he doesn't understand why she would sabotage any future reconciliation with him and any future relationship he might be able to have with her sister (answer, because she does not intend to ever be with him again, so she doesn't care about the sabotage) and I was responding to "why" she would keep "lying" about him saying x when he said not-x (answer, because he has not given her any number yet and this is making her assume the worst).

Now, it could be that I have a point here and that maybe SP could just accept my point and not go further and try to make it that I am saying he is wrong or right. I am simply saying what it looks like from the outside.

DQ

Please, please, please hear what Dance Queen is saying. There are reasons behind what you think are unreasonable actions.

The very best thing you can do for yourself is read the WAS postings. It is wonderful to get support from LBS's like you, but they can be very good at sympathizing with your POV.

We are ALL hurt, shocked, a little angry, disbelieving, hoping that the WAS will "see the light before its too late" and we can fail to get past our POV to see theirs, confirming for them the very reason they walked in the first place.