I'm walking a fine line here. I feel like I'm on a slippery slope. I know I need to be careful but I also know this is hard because you all don't know the folks involved and the entire situation. I do feel bad for her. I hope I never become the kind of person that cannot have compassion and empathy for another person. She has been treated horribly by her H and kids. She won't talk to me because she feels like I don't keep her confidence that I talk with other friends about things.
My H had lunch yesterday with his best friend (her husband) and they had a pretty frank discussion about their friendship and also about his wife. My H has been nothing but forthcoming about his conversations with both his best friend and with her at the hospital.
Yes my H feels stuck because he feels like he's the only friend she has right now. My H was the one who talked her into letting her H and daughters come to see her. She really feels like they don't love her. Her H and her daughters did come to see her at the hospital yesterday. Things did not go well. Her H had the gall to say to her in front of her daughters - how can you do this to them? My H did tell her that she's going to have to cut everyone some slack - that no one knows how to act or feel in this situation. The daughters were gone but the H was still there when my H stopped by the hospital last night. The psychiatrist still hadn't been in to see her. When my H left, her H was still there waiting on the doctor.
When my H got home he made a point of calling me into the bedroom and updating me on everything. He even called me at work yesterday and we talked for a half hour.
I'll be honest this is extremely hard on me. I let my jealousy show a little bit last night and I have to be careful not to do that! He's making every effort to fully disclose all conversations with me at this point. I know you think she may have attempted this as a ploy to get my H but everything points to her H and kids. The note she left everything.
My H has even said to me that he knows he has to be very careful here and not get pulled into this too deep.
At this point to demand that he remove himself from this situation would be a fatal mistake. I'm just going to have to take this one day at a time, keeping my eyes wide open, being as supportive as I can, and I have to be especially careful that I don't show any hint of jealousy or that I'm threatened in any way.
I'm continuing to live my life - working out, taking care of my family, connecting with friends that's all I know to do right now.
