WAW Using God

[pigskin]

I felt guilty also, but it was not enough to make me stop the EA.

Sandi, can I ask what finally DID make you stop your EA?

My wife said she felt nothing for me (ILYBNILWY)when she first spilled the beans, but hasn't said anything to that effect recently. I don't ask. I realize that if she ended the EA today it could be months or years to get back to being emotionally connected.

She initiates the Retrouvaille dialogue between us, so I can't say she's making no effort. She doesn't pick fights at all. We are not verbally hurtful to one another. We interact like friends, so I don't know if that's a positive step or if it is just another symptom masking an approaching downward slide.