Its been a while since I was here, but I do remember those days when h and I were separated and how hard it is, especially at first, and particularly when it came to spending time apart with the children. it was all awful, but I remember that being really hard for me.
What I did discover though was that my h's time with the kids, when he would take them on his own, was a great time for me to work on GAL. Which was pretty much forcing myself out and about at first, and involved a lot of tears and journaling. but eventually it turned out to be a good thing for all of us.
I know its hard to see that right now. and of course everyone's experience is different. But for me, it forced me to really GAL, to discover myself apart from spouse or parent, to try new things. and of course I learned that it could be a lot of fun to do things on my own with my kids, without my h along.
don't get me wrong, I love h and I doing things with the kids together. but there is something special for all involved with that time alone with the kids. even now that we have reconciled, we still try to spend some time on our own with the kids.
good luck!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
