Just dropping by....well, to offer you a bit of hope I guess you could say.
My best friend and I are so much alike it's scary. We can just look at each other and know what one another is thinking, or if anything is going on. He has been divorced now for going on four years. We have both been a great help to each other when it comes to all of this.
His ex shows some of the craziness of mlc, and shows a lot of signs of NPD. This woman is never wrong, extremely argumentative, and always has a need for conflict. It's hard to describe, it's like she is on a mission to point out flaws and fix everyone and everything around her. She has been so blind to the faults she has. I've never seen a more stubborn, manipulative person in my life. She puts my little mlc'er to shame.
Fast forward to the present. Lately she has begun to soften. I would have NEVER believed this could happen. Granted it's been four years, but it IS happening. She is beginning to pursue him.
They sat down and had series of talks. On two occasions she has flat out crumbled and broke down. My friend has been doing a wonderful job with this. I'm very proud of him. Although he still doesn't know what he wants and is very cautious, she is changing.
I honestly can say I NEVER would have thought this could happen. I wish a could describe her personality better, but I don't want to give any specifics. I need to respect their privacy.
Anyway, My friend has not been sugar coating anything now (we both feel she is ready to hear it), he is simply coming from a place of love and understanding, but at the same time telling her the cold hard truths about himself, herself and what happened. I'm not suggesting for you to do this, I don't feel your H is ready yet, but there just may come a time.
She is Listening....and it is hitting her like you would not believe. I am still in shock that he is getting through to her.
I just wanted to share that with ya.
Please keep in mind also that your H didn't ask for this and has no control over who his mother is. It may help you to dig a little deeper for that patience and understanding when needed the most.
