But, I am not sure it is in your best interests to say that you are not sure what other changes he wants from you as if you are a job applicant or a shopping list.
What do you mean? He DID NOT say what other changes he wants from me. I think he's telling me he likes the changes I've made as I made them. I think he knows these changes were NOT for HIM. He often compliments me about the changes in how I handle things now and says he needs to give my therapist a big fat kiss. And I agree, he does. I should have been seeing her BEFORE I got married.
And I have to disagree with this: You know what problems there were in your marriage. You should be figuring out what changes you need to make for YOU. Those changes are the ones that he will not be second guessing because he will have no doubt that they are for real. I did make these changes for me. And he's still second guessing them. He says it point blank in the email that he's not sure it's all bs and "could crumble at any second."
It's a pretty clear statement, at least for me, through out Divorce Rememdy that the spouse who leaves.....once they notice the changes, they'll continue to wait and watch with suspicion that the changes are only temporary. So his reaction is right on with all that I've read and learned.
