Just recovering from a thumping I got from Mach over on Trustinginfaith`s thread!(****My head hurts!****) (But really, thanks, Mach!)
My therapist very quickly identified that I get WAAAAAAAYYYY too angry! So has Mach. Somehow, I slid back into that with H`s backslide of last week. yeah, detached we are not! Once he has me in the fear place(and this time, I afraid of an OW on the scene,S convo coming up, monay disappearing) I fight back. Miaow!
And that makes me the demon he hates! So here`s to exorcising me today!
I`m with you on unMummyfying myself! So is H! All the changes he asked for in the past I am doing now. No, not because he wants them but because they`re very much part of the DB process of minding me. So I`ve burnt my old bras(lol!) and in with a ton of new undies, brazilian waxes, fake tan, cosmetics, perfume and new clothes. So, yeah, its MLC territory for me too!Yeah, and the MLC diet helps too!
I think me doin geverything for the kids is a bad idea. H needs to make some connection with them though I`m not going to direct is relationship with them either. Just make sure I don`t do all of it all of the time for my sake.
One of the biggest things I`ve learnt is that its not just OK to mind me but that I should feel guilty if I don`t mind me.
Thanks, Cat for sharing. You do such great work on these boards and I really appreciate having your advice!
