Yea, fear and anger are part of the same coin and you get one or the other when you flip it. So I threw the coins away LOL.

I appreciate that you understand why I try to not say too much. The I love you thing. Just letting it be for now. I do touch H now if I feel like it. Haven't gotten to planting a kiss yet, but I also don't try to NOT touch him like I did before. I'm glad that you recognize you are not ready for that yet. That is one of the keys. Keeping your focus on you and not him.

Around here we use the words detatch, drop the rope. But really what those are code words for is LET GO. That sounds scary.

Is letting go the same as giving up? Only if you want it to be.

Is it relinquishing control? Yes it is.

Can you control the other drivers on the street? Can you be 100% certain that you will get to your destination safely? If you have an accident, will you never drive or ride in a car again, giving fear your power? Will you forever drive offensivly, assuming if you don't cause the wreck others will, giving your anger your power? Or will you get in the car, knowing that the only driver and car you can maneuver is the one you are driving, taking care to try not to hurt anyone else, get to your destination safely, and being grateful along the way, knowing that you made it? You travelled your journey, even if you had to take a detour or two.

Last edited by cat04; 07/22/09 11:18 AM.

"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox