Make sure your H doesn`t see DB, DR, and esp that you are not on this forum. Yes, I know you`re already aware of that but I speak as one who has on two occasions left on of those books out and I nearly died when H found them. Damn! Not good for kidlet to pick up either! So be careful.
Your H will find DB even more easily on PC since that`s what he`s into so delete temp files just as soon as your logged outta here. Just get the habit, cos one day he`ll pop onto your PC just to check email and wham! you`re done.
"I know I've got to keep my cuddly longings under tight zip unless he initiates, and I'm not to get suckered into talks/fights about the R" keeping it light, not initiating or pursuing is exactly right, from my reading of DB. Though I`m cagey about advising since you`re at a point I`ve never got to yet, and I`m pea green with envy actually.
I sometimes wonder if separation AND EA or PA can actully clarify for BOTH parties what they really want.You`ve done all that already and maybe that`s got you as far on as you are today.
Unemployment can suck the hope out of anyone so don`t use that time just to focus on reestablishing the M, go research some freebie GALing you can do. Stuff you`ve never tried before. I`m on 8 weeks hols from work so I know that`s a factor it getting me more focusses on our R and the more I`m focussed the crazier and more impatient I`m getting! So I make myself try new things all the time particularly those involving self care and having fun.
A few suggestions:
Change what you eat for breakfast Change where you eat breakfast Change your brand of toothpaste Go hike in the hills Visit a church you`ve never been to before Try a new recipe Contact a friend you haven`t been in touch with for years Go pick up an old hobby Paint your nails Run a bubble bath with candles
Get the idea? A lot of DB IS about having fun and loving yourself first.
Better run off now and take some of my own advice!
