Storm Rider You`re good at spotting the start of a cycle-in this case your H`s outing with the lads. that got me thinking about my sitch and the genesis of a lot(not all) of our trouble seems to have been when H was tranfered to another branch of the company he works with. Another branch with a lot more workers and a lot of very young, single, and newly single women. H didn`t want to be transferred but looking back pre affair I recall him telling me all about brazilian waxes, lingerie, make up, perfume all the stuff at that apparently they talked about at work( and apparently that is all they talk about) and he wanted me to try.
This is a bit of a lightbulb moment for me. Thanks! Now getting back to your sitch have there been any other changes in your H`s life that prompted his Life Crisis? Change in work colleagues? Do you think there could be a woman lurking there anywhere that he`s comparing you with?(I`m begining to believe that there are women who prey on vulnerable men to lure them into an affair)Is there a particular single male mate who`s baiting H about the good time he`s missing? Did he find having the kids very challenging?
You say he had a lot of trouble making emotional choices. Did he find it difficult to decide to marry you? Took my H 8 years to get around to it. And he cried when he had to move out from one flat to another in his single days. Cried when he was trasnferred from one branch of work to another. Had to be dragged kicking and screaming to our new home when we moved four years ago.Equally, I believe he`ll find it hard to make the decision to separate and will hope that I`ll make it for him.Does your H sound like that? Dithers and then blames someone else when they make the decision for him?
You sound good though! These brains storms of H totally manage to get me down-I just about manage not to show that to him or the kids though!
Anyway, listening to Lenny Cohen now and chatting with a dear GF later so lots of good going on today!
