She has made a lot of bad choices, but nothing is ever her fault... Or she rewrites history in her head to where it never happened. At the time H and I started dating, she was selling meth out of her house while 13yo BIL lived there. She allowed her friends to steal from her kids. The admiration of her addict friends was more important than the love of her family (she was never a user, just a dealer). She had cosigned with H on the mortgage for his first house when he was 21, but would threaten to sell the property out from under him. A credit card lien of hers that was placed against the property was a big problem for us when we were trying to sell the house earlier this year. This is only a sampling...

Once all of the money from her husband's life insurance dried up, and all of the friends were gone because there was nothing left to take, she started to try to be the "model" parent, especially when H and I were getting closer to starting a family. But neither of us want to have anything to do with her...

Me - 30, H - 32
T - 10, M - 6, D - 1
DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2
on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10)
Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011