Whitelight, that is such a great question and I would love to know if anyone else has ever felt this way. I would really like to know.
A big reason was that it will necessitate a geo move that I was not ready to make. This move would lengthen my work commute to an hour each way. Not happy about that idea but I have given it thought and decided even in this bad job market, whose to say I would stay at my current job forever? What, do I snuggle up to it at night? I realized in this split that I would rather drive then lose the relationship. He can't move, not now, due to his business. Outside of the work commute, I actually love the town he lives in more then my town.
The other big reason is that I just wanted more time. I had been in a long marriage and a long divorce and with my BF life was so very happy. I felt like a kid in a candy store all the time. He's not perfect, but he made me really happy and we got along so well. And I'm not perfect. A part of me feared that if it didn't work out, I'd be divorced a second time. Why I feared this, I still don't know. I think it might be baggage.
