I can not believe I have been posting on this for a couple months. But something amazing has happened, besides the fact that a part of me realizes I must truly be nuts?!!
Anyhow, my xbf has been calling me recently. And he asked me out on a real date in front of real people he knows personally and in business. All nice signs. But the big thrill for me was when he said some key words from the Divorce Busting "handbook".....he said I have done a 180. At last, he has noticed. I'm floored.
He has been involved still with this other person...it is long distance but there have been a couple visits. He has no idea I know any of this.
We had a long talk over the weekend and he said he realizes he was a fool.
Anyhow, he called me today and said that he has been thinking about something I said. Not sure yet what that was.
We're getting together this weekend, socially at an event, and maybe we are at the start of really good communication.
I don't know how to re-build the trust, but I'm going to take it one step at a time. What I do want to say is that I'm moved that DB may actually be working for me. Most people at other sites would say to let this relationship die; yet this site offers encouragement that two imperfect humans can possibly find their way and that it is worth the effort to try. We'll see how it goes.
