Sandi, thank you so much for this and every post you have responded with to me. You seem to genuinely care, as do so many others here. I take what you said very seriously. I know what I must do to regain my wife's respect. The problem with me is implementing it. I have to accept that by standing up to her and not putting up with being treated badly is the right thing to do, and not worry that it may hurt her feelings or make her like me less. You are right in so many of your points. Your observations on Jesus' life and mission is an inspiration. And what you said about being a cop; I am always so afraid to show my cop attitude to her that I completely flip the other way. On patrol in NY, you have to have a certain outlook, a certain way of thinking, and attitude. It is not one for the W. In this case where she has hurt me, and the way she treats me, I have to consciously not react the way I would if I was at work. Even more, when I am at work, I do and must make all decisions from mundane to life and death. I do a very good job at that, too. I think that after dealing with the type of person I do at work, I end up Linda putting W on a pedestal. As such, I base my strength at work on my M at home. I know that I have taken her for granted. I know that while o would sit at he and try to wind down from work, I neglected her, figuring she will always be there, will always love me. Thus, throughout all this, I am experiencing the guilt of realizing how much of our problems is my fault.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
