Good for you! There's nothing to fear from the truth spoken with love and detachment. Honestly, if we can't be truthful with our spouse, why are we married to them? Who, then, are we truthful with?

It's scary, but I believe that learning how to speak honestly (instead of acting out passive aggressively) has been the greatest gift from this whole process.

I'm glad your H received it in the way you intended, and that you were able to see how he's changed as well.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!