I realize how bad this is going to make me sound.....but I am going to take that risk and hope you will listen to me. You just refered to the OW as YOUR FRIEND! How can you do that? Look, I know attempted suicide is serious and I'm not saying it isn't. However, I am telling you this and you better get it......I have personally known women who used this method of power to get what they wanted. I'll just tell you about "one" case. I remember when this young woman had a boyfriend whose dad got wise to her and stopped the boy from dating her. So, she "attemtped" suicide. While in the hospital (and I hope this sounds familiar to you.....)she said she did not want to see or talk to anybody but the boy. His dad was smart enough and had the b*lls to tell this girl that his son WOULD NOT go to the hospital no matter how many times she attempted suicide to get him there and she'd never see him again. Guess what she did? Pitched a fit!! She was FURIOUS b/c her plan did not work. She wasn't the first one to do it and she won't be the last.
Yes, you better believe women will make it appear that they are trying to kill themselves to get the attention (if you want to call it that) from the man she wants. She thought that would be the thing to pull your H out of his M and go get her. And you......you cover up and make excuses for her and talk about how bad her H has treated her! I can't believe it!
Do you honestly believe that this is not going to pull your H into her web of emotional drama & blackmail? Yes, he could pull out and say it's not any business of his, but.....I don't think he'll have the strength b/c he's in an EA with her.
You are a good person, and obviously see the best in people. I know you don't want to think the worst here....and why she wanted to speak to ONLY your husband. Why not her children? Why not her family members? If she is a friend to both of you...as you say....then why couldn't she talk to you? Exactly! Maybe I don't know all the details, and maybe I am too suspicious. I'm not as cold hearted as I sound. I am concerned that you are not taking the blindfold off your eyes to see this drama queen for what she is. She is a conieving b*tch and you better wake up and see her for what she is before she grabs YOUR HUSBAND and they take off during the night. This is the time to cut this "friendship" and save your M & family from this couple and stop all contacts. I'll bet you'll find out just how attached and how many excuses your H will find in order to remain friends with this OW......b/c he won't feel that he can walk out on her NOW! (And she knows that!) She'll make him feel he has to give her support (poor little thing). Sit back and watch. He will start finding fault when you want to pull back from the other couple's problems.
God, I hope I'm wrong.......but we'll see.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
