Well, A, sounds like you have some very valuable info - use it wisely.
I'd say your plan to back off, keep working on you and to drop several particular topics is perfect.
I know you know that you should only make changes that you agree with and that you want to change about you.
He is trying to work through things here. His mind is swirling and he is thinking things over. Its best to let him do that.
I know you also know that it doesnt mean if you change all these things, your marriage will be ok. He just might keep adding to the list. But, there are a lot of positives going on.
Try really hard not to get hung up on the things he wrote. It is best to laugh off the ones that are ridiculous.
Now is the time to take the focus off of him. Try not to read into things and check to see if he notices the changes. This is about you right now. Let him deal with his own stuff.
