What do you think her reaction would be?? I think she would say that that person died a long time ago and things change. That was part of her script.
You know how hard those words hit you? What makes you think they wouldn't hit her just as hard? Her initial reaction would probably be ugly b/c those words - her words - attack her current position. I know you see a different woman today than you married but I've told you this before - the woman you married is still in her own heart somewhere. Think about it - no matter how old YOU get, no matter how much your life and situations have changed, can't you still conjure up memories and feelings from your childhood? Little hurts, loves, experiences...no matter how far away we get from them, hearts remember. STBXW fell in love with you, had sons with you, built, worked, lived beside you. Whatever she is up to or down with now, those two decades are still harbored in her being. WAWs are not completely without a soul - you know that.
I wouldn't bet against her lashing out or saying something really snotty about getting the letters...at first. But I would also bet my next little educator's paycheck that she reads them and loses balance.
Ok I'm sold but how do I get them to her?? You know the type of garbage she is hanging with. What's the move?
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
