"I need to get out before I get hurt anymore, I don't trust him not to do that. That sounds dramatic, I know, but it's how I feel."
Far from dramatic, this sounds like you actually do know what you need to do. Of course you don't trust him not to hurt you. He has proven that he will repeatedly hurt you.
So sorry you are going through this...but you do need to get out. I don't know if that means divorce, but you do need to get out of this relationship as it currently stands. If you and he can forge a new relationship, one which provides you with what you need, then great.
