Yeah, don't you hate it when they don't cooperate? Geeez. The nerve. LOL. It sounds like you may have a shot down the line. Hey, I can't say things are lined up for me. My ex has issues, the least being probably an MLC, and I have kind of 'derailed'. Nothing serious or bad, just low energy and motivation mainly. Have to watch money closely these days as I have not been working alot lately....heating and cooling. The work is there, the energy to do the work is not. Good news is that I have little debt. Point is, you seem like you're ahead of the curve here. You also have kids and that is alot of history to throw away. You seem at least a bit frustrated judging from your last sentences. Understandable, just don't let her see it. You may also have to do the GAL deal which is pushed heavily here, and for good reason. Read up on it if you haven't already. You want a shot at getting her back, there is NO easy road. You have to do the work. I should talk....at the same time, I know eventually I'm going to get my butt in gear.