Don't worry about asking about H. I will tell you if I feel I cannot share something. Just wasn't the easiest answer. Been hit with some very hard questions on these boards in the last few days, which is a good thing.
You have to let go of the fear. Until that happens, you are not truly detached. You CANNOT control him, you cannot make his choices for him, and you will not be able to make any reasonable, rational choices for you if you are still living with fear of any of it. That hard weekend I had a few weeks back, that was when I let go of the fear. I have none now. It is really wierd to even say that. Yes I was detatched. Yes I was moving on, GAL, whatever you want to call it. Yes I was good with me. Yes I knew that no matter what I would be ok. But I was not trusting H's process for H. Fear is a horrible thing and once you learn to let it all go, you will be in a different place.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
