Well Y'all... Today I got an email from H that pretty much was a "blueprint" (as my fellow DBer called it) as to what I need to do from H's perspective to save the marriage. He was very clear what he's working on, what his current issues are, etc. He was clear what he needs from me and what he's liked about me lately too.
It was very black and white.
Some of it made me want to scream "Are you kidding me?????" But the new me let it go and just concentrated on what I could use in the email and not the stuff that made me want to laugh.
So that's where I am now. Basically the plan is to back off, keep working on me, drop several particular topics and hope he keeps his promises about certain things he won't do anymore.
