Just wanted to stop by and tell you I am thinking of you and your children and as always you are all in my prayers.
Gather as much info as you can, write it all down, weigh your options - pros and cons and then make an informed decision. Although I know it is hard, try to keep emotions out of it.
Do you meditate? Have a way to take yourself out of the storm of emotion and get quiet and clear? Make decisions with your gut rather than emotion?
I wish peace for you, FIB. More than anything.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
for a bit, just lose the emotions of this. Seriously, snap out of all that and do the best BUSINESS deal you can b/c honey this IS business.
Kids matter of course but the numbers are numbers ONLY....don't sell yourself short, and don't hold out too long either. Be rational, logical, like you are in the OR.
You'll do well FIB, someday very soon you will be alright.
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks guys. I am mentally prepared and preparing to leave my home as part of the deal IF we can find a financially sound deal to do so. I love my kids but they come first. There is nothing left here anyway..it's an emotionally vacant wasteland. We don't talk. Texts are down to a minimal. She ignores me. Again....I am OK. My main stress is financial and the kids right now. Not her.
My STBXW is a part time hairdresser @ $30K per year. I am curious to see how she will support the house...which runs $75-100K to support each year including the mortgage. You guys can guess as well as I can. Whoever stays in the house is required to pay the mortgage and all the carrying charges.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Humor....I used to laugh much more...need to get that back.
Not much new to add. It seems STBXW is more mellower again.
It's amazing to think how much I fought to save this. Now...she is a complete stranger to me. We don't talk. She barely texts me now. There is no eye contact. No dinners made. No communication. I don't know the woman I am living under the same roof with. It's so sad for the kids.
Me? I am doing well. I have my moments...like most do here..wondering how two people go from professing eternal love for each other to 'hating' each other ( I don't really hate STBXW....we just can't live together anymore).
I miss companionship. I miss intimacy. I miss being able to confide in someone....to come home and talk about my day and hear of theirs.....I think I am ready when this is done.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
