Maybe what I said didnt come out right. I didnt mean "peel it off quickly and get it over and done with" meaning your M, anyone's M. I for one am ALL for TOTAL respect of the timeline each one of us feels comfortable with (unless I see something very ...werid like DBing your ex who is married and has a child and hasnt seen you for 2 years... )
But I do feel that at some point both spouses need to be left alone with nothing else but their feelings to realise what their common life really meant to them. When there is an "excuse" to be in constant fight, stay angry, irritated, feel your spouse as your rival, you have no reason to look deeper inside. But that again is only my take and it certainly doesnt fit all cases... K
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